Archive for November, 2008


every girl crazy ’bout a sharp dressed man, part 2

November 29, 2008

Ok, so in the nice response of the last post I got here in comments and privately via email, I’m going to talk a little bit more about clothes. A friend has taken to calling me Mr. Sartorial, but that’s ok, I kind of like it. And if I can help any other butches or butch-like peeps out there, then even better.

Last post, Amanda asked me about pants, and if I had any advice for buying pants in the men’s department that didn’t look…funny on women, especially a larger or hippier woman.  If you’re skinny, pants really aren’t an issue, but the one universal rule of women in men’s pants is this. NO PLEATS. Never get the pleated pants. They just look silly, and on women (hippier and wide alike) just accentuate parts that we don’t particularly like to focus on.  I am not of the hippier variety and don’t have any advice right now on which brands in particular fit best, but I know that it’s hard because if you have a narrower waist than hip/thigh then the waist won’t fit and your thighs feel big in the pants.

As for brands that I like – I particularly like Flat Front Dockers. They make my butt look nicer and….less flat than it actually is, and they hang very well. Plus, their 30 length pants (I’m short, too) don’t need to be hemmed or rolled up, and hang very nicely over my boots or shoes. Also, Gap brand mens dress pants

As for Jeans, that’s a whole different ball game but some of the factors still are in play. Slim men’s jeans sometimes don’t even come close to working around hips or thighs and if you’re bigger, it’s not a good cut anyway. Relaxed fit jeans tend to be a bit too baggy in the thigh and taper a bit too much at the ankle on a woman’s shape, plus they tend to bunch up weird in the crotch area.

Additionally, different brands fit differently on everyone. I will make one suggestion though – I have found that Lucky Brand Jeans are awesome. Yes, they are somewhat expensive and usually wayyyy more than I’d pay for one article of clothing, however, I bought my first pair a year and a half ago, and they are the only jeans I’ve worn since I bought them (1, maybe 2x a week) and they just died last week. Being as I’d normally buy a few pairs of jeans in a year, these were actually cost effective. And best, they fit me perfectly. I fit best into the “Slim Bootcut” jean.  I do have somewhat skinny legs and very little hip action so they work just fine for my thighs, and hang very nicely down the rest of my leg, and again, do something special for my behind.  If you buy them online they often have 1/2 price sales at their website.

Also, one more word on jeans. If you’re a woman buying men’s jeans, pay careful attention to the wash and wear of the jean. It’s pretty fashionable right now to wear jeans that have distressed knees/thighs/butt etc., when you’re trying them on, no matter how tall/short you are, pay special attention to where the knee distressing is because if it is mid calf, it’s not a knee, and looks, um, silly.

Keep your questions coming, butches, butch like people, masculinely expressed people, and the people who love and dress them.  I’m kind of liking this and actually am thinking of a few projects that may continue this type of discussion.


every girl crazy ’bout a sharp dressed man

November 21, 2008

So….being as I’ve got some big writers block about anything real going on in my life right now I thought that I would introduce you to some of my favorite things. One of those things are clothes. I love clothes. And shoes. But right now it’s all about the clothes.  As you may (or not, who knows) I definitely fall on the butch end of the identity spectrum and prefer to buy all of my clothes from the mens dept. Except for bras. They are an unfortunate necessity.

My daily work attire is fairly similar from day to day. Slacks, shirt, tie, and sweater/sweater vest.  I LOVE sweater vests and ties. I love ties the most though, and I’m always looking for new ones that are awesome.  And so, tonight I present to you “tie rack, #1.

I will admit to having some favorites – I love the black/silver paisley one, and I got married in the pink paisley one and I really like the old English letter-type one and A has an identical one and sometimes it’s fun to match and…and…and…yeah. I  love ties.

I love ties so much that I know at least half a dozen different knots though I most prefer the full Windsor knot (really, it isn’t called a double Windsor no matter what anyone else says.)  While I’m pretty particular about most things I’m especially so with ties, and how I dress.  Generally speaking, I don’t feel….complete these days without one, which is funny mostly because many guys I know really hate them and feel restricted by them.  I’m really really lucky to work at a place where I can wear what makes me most comfortable – and every now and again it’s nice to hear things like, “you know, sometimes I hate it that you look better in a tie than I do,” from the boys that I work with.  And that they ask me for fashion advice.

So yeah. Call this installment one of the things I love…..TBC…..


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November 9, 2008

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say wha?

November 5, 2008

Um. Yeah. Did the President Elect of the United States just mention gay Americans in a positive way in his speech?

Yes. Yes he did.

It’s a new day peeps. It’s a new day.


Here’s hoping

November 3, 2008

The sun’ll come out
Bet your bottom dollar
That tomorrow
There’ll be sun!
Just thinkin’ about
Clears away the cobwebs,
And the sorrow
‘Til there’s none!
When I’m stuck with a day
That’s gray,
And lonely,
I just stick out my chin
And grin,
And say,
The sun’ll come out
So ya gotta hang on
Tïll tomorrow
Come what may
I love ya
You’re always
A day