Archive for October, 2007


a day off

October 15, 2007

I feel in my heart of hearts that today is one of those days where I won’t be able to say anything nice, so um, I’m just going to take the day off.

Discussion topic, if you wish to be chatty:

What is your favorite fall/winter breakfast food, and how does it make you feel/how long does it keep you full??


the dangling par”t”iciple

October 11, 2007

Today is National Coming Out Day!!  I’m out to pretty much every person directly related to me (and sometimes indirectly – I came out to the customer service rep at one of my credit cards recently,) I’ve decided to write a little bit about a pretty big issue in the GLBT community, one that has seen little coverage on “our” kind of blogs.  Today, I’m coming out in support of the transgender members of my family.

The proposed elimination of the “T” from ENDA is a really big deal. Some folks (ok, from what I’ve read, mostly wealthy white men in positions of power but I really didn’t want to bring sexism or privilege into the conversation but my big mouth just couldn’t let me get past it)  in the “community” feel that this is not a big deal. They wonder how the “T” even got at the end of GLBT. They say they are sympathetic to the issues and needs of the trans community but “lets just get our law passed first, and then we can deal with those issues later.”  They say that “well, we’ve been fighting longer for the GLB so it’s ok for the T to wait a bit longer.”

I think this is all bullshit.

In order to really grasp the importance of the T inclusiveness in ENDA, I think it’s crucial to break down the anatomy of discrimination, especially the discrimination of GLBT folks. When discrimination happens in most of the cases that would be supported by ENDA, it’s not because the “victim” has actually come out and said they were gay.

For example: when a potential employer thinks to themselves, “wow, I’m not hiring this flaming faggot to work for me,” when interviewing a somewhat effeminate man, it’s generally NOT because the applicant has outed himself in any way. The employer is making a discriminatory judgement based upon the applicants GENDER presentation. 

If I am denied a position that I’m perfect for just because the prospective employer thinks I’m a big bad bulldyke, well, it’s certainly NOT because I’ve told the interviewer  “hi, I do women.”  It’s because they’ve made a judgment about my sexual orientation based upon how I express my gender - which is, lets face it, more on the masculine side of the spectrum.

And sometimes, when a transperson is turned down for a job, it’s not because the employer knows that the applicant is trans, but because they are perceived as GAY or “other” based on their gender presentation, or they present their gender in a way that doesn’t seem to conform to the employers’ notion of “man” or woman.”

I really do believe that the support of trans inclusiveness in ENDA from the rest of the GLBT community is crucial. I think that the “haters” are watching us self destruct right now, laughing about how we can’t get or keep our shit together.

I think that we need to show our government that we ARE a (somewhat) cohesive unit,  that we need to stand firm and get this bill passed as written, and let “them” know that we will not leave members of our family behind, or forsake them for advancement of the rest.



Of all time??

October 10, 2007

My bud KP turned me on to this tidbit but I had to listen for myself. The oldies station here has kind of changed its format and now they are playing songs that were popular from all of the decades, not just the 50’s-70’s. 

As a slight aside, I find it disturbing that certain Nirvana songs, and even Metallica songs are now being played on the “classic rock” station, but I digress.

The new not oldies station is now claiming that they play the “Biggest Hits of all Time.”  They repeat that slogan often in their commercials and the DJ’s like saying it too, except they say it pretty fast. I think they think it is funny.

I think it is funny too.  And I giggle out loud every time they say it.

I will admit that I think the title belongs to Dolly Parton.



October 9, 2007

I’m not going anywhere….Just using some time to reflect on some things that are going on. I hope to be enlightened once more with the spark of creativity but right now…things seem to just be…..dull. Of course now that I’ve said that, I’ll take a punch of enthusiasm to the stomach and start posting every day….now that would be nice.


GFM Recap

October 3, 2007

Even though I am a *lucky* recipient of what is being called the “Portland Plague,” I still managed to drag myself out to GFM, Olive Garden extravaganza. Our waitpeople had no idea what they were getting themselves into.  The entire event lasted well over 2 hours, but we were a big group anyway, so there was much conversation as entertainment outside of the competitive eating.

And how did our contestants fare?? Contestant #1, KD well, she talked a really big game but managed to only get 3 bowls down.  She gave a big FU to the other contestants by getting a piece of cheesecake as desert, but really I don’t think it phased the other two contenders at all.

Contestant #2, aka my little sister fared better. Though I think she did it a little too fast and almost as soon as she got her 5th bowl (yes, 5) down she called her self out of the game and raced off to the restroom.

Which leaves us with our winner KP, who finished and kept down his 5th bowl of pasta. He was rewarded nicely by not having to pay for his dinner and also having bragging rites till next year. I was told he managed to keep his dinner down at least an hour after eating, though um, some of it made….a return.  He also reports not being hungry until 5pm the following day.

So, there you have it. GFM spaghetti eating competition of 07 is over. Next year I’m going to figure out a way that others can compete via webcam. This could become the “next big thing.” Really.


Return of GFM

October 1, 2007

What I’ve written about before as “Monday Madness,” has been renamed “Gross Food Monday,” and is reconvening tonight at the Olive Garden. Not that we think the OG is a gross resturant, I mean, it’s not really Italian food, but what it is isn’t SO bad. And it’s cheap.  But there is a specific point to tonight’s venture out.

It seems that a few of my friends, and my sister, have been inspired by the recent world champion burrito eating contest that took place in the Portland area last weekend. Such “competitive eating,” (though, let me just say, I DON’T consider this a sport) champions such as Takeru Kobayashi who was until recently the Nathan’s champion, and Sonia, “The Black Widow” Thomas were in town for the event. Now we didn’t actually GO to watch (we could have but um….really, there are much better things to waste time on,) but since the event, some of our crew have been….inspired.

Which brings us to tonight. It is that time of year when the OG has brought back the “never ending pasta bowl,” which is affording my friends the perfect opportunity to engage in some competitive eating, and also not pay very much for it. Personally, I think this is gross. But it IS “Gross Food Monday,” and so I will go and watch. 

So far there have been only a few rules set down….winner is selected based on how many total bowls of pasta eaten, competitor has free choice of what kind of pasta ordered (which makes them have to think a bit. I wouldn’t suggest anything with alfredo,) and can choose whether or not to eat salad or bread (I wouldn’t do that, either.) The only two prohibitive rules we’ve come up with is that one must keep down all food until leaving the OG premises, and also that one is not allowed to engage in any pre game rituals that perhaps might be classified as ….”performance enhancers.” 

So, yeah. The return of GFM.  Life can be fun. You know,  sometimes, when some of you guys tell me that I do awesome things with my friends….and that you wished you live closer to participate? Probably rethinking that notion right about now, eh?